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Get clear on yourself
- Define your goal (casual, no relationship expectations)
- Set personal boundaries (what’s allowed / not allowed)
- Ensure safety standards (STI testing, protection, public first meets)
Choose the right places
- Dating apps with casual filters
- Social mixers or hobby meetups
- Friend-of-friend gatherings
- Avoid workplaces, power-imbalanced situations, or unsafe contexts
Build a clear profile
- Recent natural photos
- Bio stating intent (casual, drama-free)
- Set app filters/preferences for casual dating
Start conversations
- Open with something from their profile
- State intent politely
- Screen for fit, interests, and boundaries
Consent & boundaries
- Share your boundaries clearly
- Ask about theirs
- Agree on public first meetings
Plan the first meet
- Choose low-pressure public venue
- Meet early evening (avoid late nights)
- Send logistics confirmation on the day
On the date
- Be present, polite, and attentive
- Signal alignment: ask preferences for next steps
- Use consent language for intimacy
Safer intimacy basics
- Use protection every time
- Discuss recent STI testing
- Ensure sober consent
Ending the date
- If interested, propose next casual meeting
- If not interested, end respectfully
- No ghosting—closure matters
Aftercare & communication
- Follow up for mutual clarity
- Check-ins on comfort and boundaries
- Adjust agreements if needed
Red flags—walk away immediately
- Pressure, disrespect, or boundary violation
- Substance misuse affecting consent
- Inconsistent stories, rage, or coercion
Personal metrics
Honesty score, safety score, mutuality check, energy check